I'm writing an article for the magazine about Stay-at-Home Moms. If you get a chance, could you answer the following questions? I'd like to quote some of you in this article, so please let me know if you'd rather I didn't use your first and last name and location in the article.
1. What's your favorite thing about being a SAHM?
2. What's your least favorite thing about being a SAHM?
3. Tell me about your transition into SAHMhood. What was the hardest thing to get used to? What was the easiest?
4. What misconceptions exist about SAHMs? Have you ever been put down or argued with about your decision to stay home?
5. What would be your advice for future or new SAHMs?
Thanks for your time, lovely ladies!
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1. What's your favorite thing about being a SAHM?
My favorite thing is being the first. I am the first to give them instructions and guidance. I get to see thier firsts happen. And I am the first at the scene when things go wrong or when they are in need.
2. What's your least favorite thing about being a SAHM?
My least favorite things is not having a lot of 'me' time or social time with other adults. My husband works evenings so I spend all day alone with the kids.
3. Tell me about your transition into SAHMhood. What was the hardest thing to get used to? What was the easiest?
The hardest thing about the transition was that my working friends ditched me. Though my schedule was much more open, they no longer viewed me as a peer with common interests.
The easiest thing to get used to was being able to sit around in my pjs all day long and to do things on my own schedule. Sure I have to plan things around my kids' social lives and school, but otherwise it's my time to plan around.
4. What misconceptions exist about SAHMs? Have you ever been put down or argued with about your decision to stay home?
My husband's mother was a working mom and because of that, when money is tight, he doesn't understand why I don't just go out and get a job. He also worries that I wont feel accomplished without a career but that is incorrect. I feel more accomplished raising my children at home with me than I did when I was out in the work force.
5. What would be your advice for future or new SAHMs?
Find a friend! A good friend who shares your same values and is also a SAHM. Someone you can call when your kids stress you out, if you need to vent about the in-laws, and to have lunch with on occasion. SAHMhood can be lonely if you let it and your old friends from your working days might not fill your new needs.
-Krystal Avila
First off, have you read Dr. Laura's new book about SAHM's? AMAZING!! Best book ever.
You can use my name/location/whatever you want!
1. My favorite thing is knowing that my kids will grow up feeling safe & loved. They will always know that Mom is there for them, no matter what. I am their biggest fan, and they never have to worry about being left to face anything alone.
2. My least favorite thing is how mundane the days can feel. Sometimes I wake up and don't even bother getting showered/dressed because I know I won't even leave my house. I know that part of that is a personal choice, but it has been a struggle for me to find excitement in each day.
3. The hardest thing to get used to was how to pass the hours with a toddler!! The easiest thing was not feeling rushed to get out the door for work.
4. I hate how SAHM's usually feel like they have to justify or defend their roles. "I just stay home. That's it." That's how a lot of mom's describe it. It's heartbreaking that more people don't realize that raising future generations to be healthy, happy, self-confident adults is the MOST important job there is!
5. My advice would be to keep the focus on your children. There isn't a whole lot of immediate rewards in the beginning. The thing that keeps me going every day is picturing my children growing up and saying "Wow, I had a great childhood. Mom was always there for me."
I just finished Dr. Laura's book! It's going to be a big part of the article, even though I had this article planned a year ago!
1. What's your favorite thing about being a SAHM?
I don’t miss out on the learning experiences and milestones of my children. I can be here when they need me.
2. What's your least favorite thing about being a SAHM?
Sometimes…only sometimes I get bored. So I need to make sure I am fulfilling goals for myself and working on projects to keep me inspired.
3. Tell me about your transition into SAHMhood. What was the hardest thing to get used to? What was the easiest?
It was easy to be home with my babies. The hardest part was missing the part of “me” that was a teacher. Again, I have to keep that part of me alive.
4. What misconceptions exist about SAHMs? Have you ever been put down or argued with about your decision to stay home?
That you can actually make money…okay some of you can. If I did work I would only make enough money to pay for childcare so it really isn’t worth it. That you’ll loose yourself when you are not in a career, the truth is you gain yourself. When we become mom’s that is such a huge part of who we are and who we should become. It can be a hard transition but the best one!
5. What would be your advice for future or new SAHMs?
Just do it! Make the transition! Keep your dreams and hopes alive on the side. But focus on your children. They are your legacy, when you get old you will regret more about missing out on motherhood and less about missing out on a career.
1. What's your favorite thing about being a SAHM?
Well, I worked in a day-care center for about 4 years before I had my daughter, so I know what goes on. I like that I get to spend so much time with my daughter, but I also know what she is eating, what her behavior is, and I know if she does something she shouldn't (hitting, biting, etc.) that she will have consequences.
2. What's your least favorite thing about being a SAHM?
My daughter and I have similar personalities, so we butt heads a lot. And it always seems like this is when my husband is working late.
3. Tell me about your transition into SAHMhood. What was the hardest thing to get used to? What was the easiest?
My husband was home with me for the first few days, so the biggest change was being all on my own, still trying to heal after a c-section and jumping up every two hours to feed her. The easiest part was getting to spend so much time with my daughter, and getting to take naps!
4. What misconceptions exist about SAHMs? Have you ever been put down or argued with about your decision to stay home?
Oh, yeah. I am a college student taking night classes and I've had several people ask me why she isn't in daycare. I hate the whole "Oh, you stay at home?" I also have dinner ready for my husband when he gets home from work, apparently that's wrong too, which I think it's just a nice gesture, you worked all day, here have some food. Besides, who wants to eat alone?
5. What would be your advice for future or new SAHMs?
Enjoy the experience, don't spend all of your time cleaning and have fun with your children.
1. I get to play! That's better than work anyday! I know where my kids are and what they are doing. I have the satisfaction knowing I am the one teaching my children values instead of learning them elsewhere.
2. Being interupted during "me time". I just have to be flexible and remember that I am not home for me, I am home for them. My children are the focus.
3. Hardest thing to get used to was being alone. And believe it or not, the TV does not make a great companion! It was hard to adjust having a brand new baby, being home, and learning to be a new mom. It does not all come naturally.
The easiet thing was being there with my child.
4. I can't think of any specific time I was ridiculed for being a stay-at-home. Most people respond saying that it is it's own full-time job.
I think a misconception is that it is boring. When I had one child, that was a little boring, it's hard to entertain a toddler by yourself. After I had my second I became more occupied with taking care of their needs, there wasn't as much time to be bored. The same is even more true with my third. I love having three, they play with each other, entertain each other. . . yes they do fight, but the love they share overpowers those moments.
5. Learn to love it. Make the effort to learn to love it. It is not easy raising children, but the reward is great.
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